What you'll learn in this course
In this chapter
- Critics are your well-wishers
- Constructive criticism helps you identify problem areas
- If someone criticizes you, s/he is monitoring your progress closely
- Refrain from reacting; instead, go for action
- Jot down their suggestions and implement what is right for you
“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
The biggest room in this world is the room for improvement, no matter how talented and proficient you are at a particular task. For goal seekers who want to see themselves in the category of goal achievers soon, taking constructive criticism from experienced and knowledgeable people is important. Instead of listening to anything from anyone, try to develop the desired ability to differentiate between constructive criticism and the unconstructive or destructive one. The moment you gain proficiency in differentiating between criticisms and embracing the constructive one, you will see yourself headed to goal-achievement.
While taking criticism from someone, it is essential to understand whether the person actually knows your purport, goal, or mission, or is his criticism just a vague opinion – sermon rather – that does not make any sense to you. Oftentimes, the significance of a person in your life determines the manner in which you take his opinion. The critic may be your boss, your colleague, friend, wife or anybody else who does not even know you. Then again, lest you are willing to improvise on your modes of action post-criticism, it is just worthless to even think of deriving positivity from any sort of criticism.
It is a general human tendency to be ecstatic when you and your efforts receive positive feedback and defensive when the feedback is not up to your liking. However, in an ideal world, you have to dispassionately analyze the feedback and derive suggestions that help you grow as a person and a goal achiever. It is a smart tactic to pretend that criticism is not about you and just concentrate upon taking the positives out of it.
A goal seeker should devise ways to filter out actionable, utilizable and repeatable points from criticism delivered to him or her, while ensuring that the critic does not provide you with his subjective opinion. If the suggestions make some sense to you, follow them; otherwise, filter them out since they have nothing to with your plan, actions, or goals as such. Remember, individuals with propensity to hate will not leave their habit, but not all their prattles are prattles actually. It is up to you to find out the reason and work upon it.
When someone points our certain discrepancies, errors or frailties in your goal-achievement process, make it a point to take the positives out of their suggestions and employ all of them to your benefit. On the contrary, if someone helps you with positive comments only, ask him about area/s of improvement that requires your attention. Ask others to provide their valuable feedback, but accept only those suggestions that are right for you.